What Attracts A Man To A Woman
What makes a man fall in love with a woman?
Most men have certain “sometimes bizarre!” fantasies, but actually have no idea or are unwilling to tell what actually makes them ‘fall in love with a woman.
Here is the truth about men regarding women they ‘fall in love with and marry.
Basically, a man falls in love with the woman who can best fulfill his EGO.
Every man has different ego needs.
One man may prize women who are high maintenance, as this fulfills their ego need of being the partner of someone who is of high status “that can lend him the status that he lacks on his own”. Such a man would fall in love easily with a woman who fulfills that characteristics.
Another man’s ego need may be to be adored by his woman “maybe because in real life he feels he has never received the due credit he feels he deserves”, so he will choose a woman who desperately desires him and caresses his masculinity, praises him to the moon and takes no credit for herself. He will “fall in love” with such a woman, even if she is not very pretty.
The real dirty SECRET is: Most men choose to commit to a woman who CONTROLS them — and whom they do not mind being controlled by and are not looking to escape from it, yet they NEVER ADMIT to loving being controlled by their women— basically, the CONTROL needs to be subtle and undetectable so that the man can feel like he is still ‘the man’.
This is where ‘modern and independent women who give their men all the ‘freedom’ and ‘trust’ sometimes fail. The mistake they make is, they think if they give a man freedom and trust, they are showing the man respect, which will make him respect her more — and based on that fact, he will ‘fall in love’ with her.
THAT IS WRONG.
Instead, a woman who ‘acts’ a bit insecure, (you don't really have to be an insecure person to “act” insecure). who makes him aware that she notices that he looks at other women and tells him that she is scared he may leave her and so she overtly acts in certain ways to keep him close to her — makes the man feel masculine and needed making him feel like he holds the power. NOTE:(you don’t have to be actually insecure, you can just “act” that way sometimes, as this is an ego booster for most men). The woman who acts possessive, feminine, needy — and controlling — usually fulfills his ego needs making him feel masculine, wanted, and needed.
Also, most men will ‘fall in love’ effortlessly with a woman that is feminine and they are 1x or 5x ahead of in life — maybe she has some insecurities, maybe she is not too intelligent (ie. smart but not *smarter than him), maybe she is a bit emotionally ‘weak’ and needy of him. ‘Men love to be the center of attraction’.
Men do not usually like to ‘look up to’ their women — they like to be LOOKED UP TO instead. A woman who looks up to a man can more easily make him ‘fall in love’ with her. Conversely, if a man comes across a woman who is worthy of respect, who they can't help but look up to, they tend to feel not ‘in love’ but instead, intimidated, and uncomfortable about how to exactly act/respond. Men rarely know how to actually treat a woman who inspires true respect from him — rather he will shy away and avoid her — because his ego need is not to ‘look up to’ but to be ‘looked up to’.
Discrepancies lie in what women THINK will make a man all in love with her (mainly based on myths popularised by the media), what men THINK to make them all in love with a woman, versus what men ACTUALLY need, want, and respond to.
In fact, most men who think they have ‘fallen in love’ are actually not really in love — they are INFATUATED. Their infatuation is NOT with the real woman, but with an idea or fantasy they have of her. A man can read a lot of meaning into a woman’s words, movements, character, etc, and give them (undeserved) meaning/significance — simply because they are ALREADY ‘in love’ with her. If he was not ‘in love’ with her, then those very exact same words, movements, and characteristics — will be perceived as dumb/ psycho/ nymphomaniac/unappealing /crazy.
Thank you for reading, and please share with us why you fell in love with your partner. 🤝
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